One year ago today I publicly promised my love and devotion to the man who will hold my hand through this journey called life. I’m sitting here next to him and I think about how far we’ve come and how far we’ve yet to go. I admit I was nervous of what life would look like post-wedding. Was I too young to get married? Would we hate each other after one month of being physically together? Would I still be able to accomplish my goals? What if we weren’t actually meant to be? I feared the worst but with good reason.
We had a long distance military relationship for about four years. While most couples can get together at any given moment, him and I could only see each other during the holidays and a few weeks in the summertime, if that. During the dating years, we were the epitome of the phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” I’d get butterflies every time I’d pick him up from the airport. We were inseparable for the weeks he’d be home. For that little time, I was in a fairytale land. When he’d leave I’d reluctantly go back to the real world. Most of our relationship was spent apart. In all honesty, it was as though we were a couple consisting of two single people. I was doing my own thing (college and work) and he was doing his (fighting for our country). Could you blame me for being scared of marriage?
One year since the wedding I’ve let go of my fears. I’ve learned a lot about what marriage is and what it isn’t. Marriage is sacrifice. Marriage is compromise. Marriage is not always a sunny day. Marriage is tearing down your walls and building a brand new house brick by brick with the love of your life. Marriage isn’t a piece of cake, but it sure is sweet. I could have played it safe and stayed single, but I chose love over my doubts. Thankfully, my husband rids me of my doubts every single day. Marriage is a risk, but it’s a risk worth taking.
Most girls get so engulfed in planning their wedding that they neglect to look past the honeymoon. They don’t plan for life post-wedding. They don’t think about the kind of wife they want to be. If you’re planning your wedding, I encourage you to think about this. What kind of wife do you want to be? What kind of marriage do you want to have? Because, at the end of the day, along with your beautiful wedding pictures you’ll want a beautiful marriage to match.